Have you ever thought of scheduling a weekly family meeting during the summer months? It really is a great way to boost communication skills at home! Kids of all ages, when given the chance, can participate in structured discussions to recap the previous week and plan for the next one. Routine meetings can allow everyone to contribute personal thoughts, feelings, ideas, choices, etc., so that everyone has an opportunity to be heard. Topic possibilities are endless, yet providing this type of platform can build family connections and help children develop their personal communication skills.

Here’s how it works:

1. Pick a time to conduct the weekly family meetings this summer. It can be some time on the weekend or whatever works with your family’s schedule. The point is to plan the time into your schedule so your children can look forward to having a special time to express themselves.

2. Work together to name the time set apart to meet. (Example: The Johnson Council) Create an official sign using the chosen name, and display it during family meetings!

3. Assign an office to each contributing family member. Making the meeting time more formal can be fun for your children and also introduce them to the structure of a public meeting forum. Here’s an example:

4. Create an agenda for your meeting time. Include a recap of the last meeting, a budget discussion by the treasurer, weekly stars, and weekly wishes that are ideas for the upcoming week. (A “star” would be something that is working well in your schedule; a “wish” would be something that will continually change.) Example:

Providing your children with an opportunity to participate in a weekly family meeting during the summer months can sharpen their communication skills. Meetings can coax reluctant speakers with a venue to express themselves as well as supply more vocal children with a vehicle to communicate in a safe, controlled environment. Everyone can have a chance to contribute, and you might be surprised by what you will learn during these discussions.

True Story: (If I may share a short story with you from my own childhood, it might help you think about your own communication habits within your family.)

While I was in grade school, my mother used to braid my tremendously long hair in two braids every single day. Unbeknownst to her, the other kids would tease me about my braids, which of course mortified me. I was embarrassed and would have preferred not wearing my hair that way, but in my shy obedience to my mom, I never said a word about it to her.

Imagine my surprise years later when I mentioned this period of my growing up years to her. I will never forget her saying, “All you had to do was tell me. You didn’t have to wear your hair that way.” …Wait! …All I had to do was tell her?! Ugh!

My mother’s words opened a window in my mind to the value of communication.

Is there a shy, obedient child in your family that might benefit from a weekly time to express what is on his or her mind? Do you have a more expressive child that needs structure and guidance to speak in an orderly way? Perhaps a weekly family meeting this summer could be just the tool your family needs to build communication skills.